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Accept, Tolerate and Regret

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As humans we desire to be chosen, to be loved, and to be focused on. We can get impatient with waiting to be chosen, to be loved, and to be the focus of someone’s world. In our hurry to be chosen and to be loved we often end up with the wrong person. There are three words we should journal when we meet someone and while we are waiting. They are accept, tolerate, and regret. What we accept we often regret and most often when we think we are accepting things we are usually just tolerating them.

Accept-believe or come to recognize as valid or correct
Tolerate-allow the existence, occurrence, or practice of without interference
Regret- to feel sad, repentful, disappointed over something that has happened or been done

Looking over these words I saw how I had mistakenly considered myself accepting things my ex husband’s actions and/or words because I it was done so often I simply expected it. I was not genuinely tolerating his behaviors because I didn’t allow it to continue without interference. The interference came in the form of counseling or simple shutting down with him. Regret was the only true thing I felt and didn’t confuse with anything. I regretted that I had allowed myself to be in what was supposed to be a marriage.

I prided myself for staying there saying I was a good wife and I refused to neglect my wifely duties yet I made him just as miserable by trying to transform him into someone he was not capable of being. Eventually I moved into the trueness of acceptance. I finally believed and came to recognize his actions as valid and correct for who he was as a person and of his character.

We must be careful trying to rush being chosen by someone. We must believe that when someone shows us over and over again who they are that it is real and we can’t mold others into any form we so desire. Take your time and when you meet people think of these three words and know what you can truly accept and not just tolerate.

While you are waiting know that God chose you before you were even conceived, so you have been chosen.

Dr Lisa Melton

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I write because it is my passion. It's what I do everyday it is my God given gift. Writing is love, life and power! I pray my words help someone get through this journey called life.

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