Crowded subway in New York. A young lady holding a small baby boy and two elementary age boys walking beside her all get on the subway. The lady had been crying. You could see the traces of tears on her face. As she sit down with her hair looking rather out of place, with an expensive business suit and high heels on her baby begin to cry. The other two boys refused to sit in one spot. Initially she called out, “boys, sit down”. But after a few minutes it was as if she didn’t notice the boys behaving rather unruly. She didn’t even seem to hear the baby in her arms crying. Of course by now those on the subway were making comments like, “wish they were my kids”, “can you believe her”. Finally, an older lady rudely said, “lady do something with your kids!” The young lady, with tears in her eyes looked over at her and said I am sorry. I just left the hospital where my husband just passed away. He was in an accident this morning on his way to work.
The older rude lady along with the other subway riders who were making comments all became silent. As they sit in judgement of her they had no idea of what she was going through. Her heart was broken because the love of her life, the father of her children and the glue that held them all together was gone. Without any warning he was just gone. She was so consumed with the grief, numb and shocked that she didn’t pay attention to what her children were doing.
Moral of this story is never judge others. You dont’ know what they are dealing with. So the next time someone cuts you off stop and think before you curse them out. They could have just left from getting chemo or they could have just gotten a call that a loved one had passed. You just don’t know. Be prayerful and not judgemental.
Dr Lisa Melton